Recently, a married woman noticed her husband acting suspiciously. She decided to look into it and discovered something shocking she never expected. Feeling lost and unsure of what to do, she reached us for help and advice.
Here’s her letter:
Margaret, we deeply appreciate your trust in sharing such a sensitive story with us. Rest assured, we’ve dedicated ourselves to offering five tips aimed at assisting you in navigating this challenging time.
Some advices to recover relationships.
The important thing to remember is that relationships need time to become trustworthy again. Here are some main points Margaret and Gary should pay attention to in their future family life.
- When you feel ready to talk to your partner, plan your approach carefully. Choose a time when you can have an uninterrupted conversation. Approach the topic calmly and avoid accusations. Use “I” statements to express how their actions have affected you (e.g., “I feel hurt and confused by your recent behavior”).
- Avoid actions that undermine trust. These actions, in essence, violate the implicit relationship contract. Overpromising and underdelivering is a particularly insidious way to erode trust in relationships. Always be honest. Never use something shared in a vulnerable moment as ammunition in an argument.
- Distinguish between trust and control. People with trust issues often feel a need for control, which can manifest as mistrustful behavior. You might feel betrayed or taken advantage of if you don’t have complete control over every situation. However, this will only harm your relationships in the long run. Learning how much control to relinquish in a given situation is key to building trust with others.
- Choose to let trust build. Even if the partner does everything right, trust issues in a relationship won’t improve if you don’t allow trust to grow. This process involves vulnerability and taking risks. Ideally, this risk is worthwhile due to the increased closeness and connection you’ll achieve.
Sometimes marriages go through tough times. It can be small fights about house chores or more serious issues like cheating. It’s important to talk openly and honestly to build trust, improve and keep the relationship strong.
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